Harder For Us To Face Break-Ups

It's not any secret that PLU's face greater (I would say much greater) challenge when it comes to break-ups. Reasons are very clear:

• PLU relationships are hard to blossom in the first place. It needs to battle so many more obstacles as compared to ST8 relationships before it could develop into a committed relationship. So when it ends, the feelings of loss is of course greater


• PLU's are generally insecured in terms of confidence and ability to find or achieve a relationship status. When you're insecured, break-ups come harder on you when it happens


• PLU's don't (or rather seldom) have marriages, couples are often plagued by the fear of insecurity


• Quite a high percentage of PLU community unfortunately invests a huge part of their financial wealth into maintaining the relationships (esp. when they're involved with a ST8 partner), again the feelings of loss is of course greater when it ends

A very dear friend of mine recently faced the hardest break-up ever. She was already living with her boyfriend like any committed couples do, and the break-up went down really hard on her. To make it worst, it happened when she was working in Dubai, far away from her lover in Malaysia. I could understand how difficult it was in such situation, all alone without family and friends, taking it all in by ourselves.

It's been a few months already and I know she is still not fully recovered. I've always told her, she deserves all the time she needs, to heal. So take it slow. I don't know how else I could help her besides talking, listening and keep reminding her that I'm there for her whenever she needs me. I thoroughly feel her pain, but I don't know what else I could do here.

I recently went on the net and read some articles on helping people get through hard break-ups, some do offer quite good advice.

ARTICLE 1

ARTICLE 2

ARTICLE 3

ARTICLE 4

"One of the most difficult stages is depression. This is the stage that typically lasts the longest. The strongest reflection is happening here. You think to yourself, 'I'm never going to find anyone again". That is more common than you realize right now. Yes, you will find someone again, if you keep yourself busy and try as hard as you can to get out of the house. This is the time to really try to get lost in something new. It's difficult because it's easier to do nothing at all. You want to cry, you want to feel sorry for yourself. You need to fight it. What a great time to re-invent yourself! Attitude is everything"

- Excerpt taken from http://pattifeinstein.com/ (Article 3)

To my dear sister, I hope these articles can shed some light and help you recover a bit more. I hope you'll be able to get back on your feet again soon, and be the cheerful & lively person we know you are. We miss you dearly over here, take good care of yourself in Dubai...